Miyerkules, Agosto 29, 2012

MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING


Article 1

Christine P. Echevarria
“MU” or MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING


When we say “MU”, first thing comes to our minds were boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Let’s try to look in broader sense. We define the word MUTUAL as common to, or shared by, two or more. And UNDERSTANDING as the ability to sympathize with another person’s feelings. Combine it, and then we got the definition of mutual understanding as the common ability to sympathize feelings of two or more persons.


Most teenagers defined “MU” or mutual understanding as “Magulong Usapan”. For them, mutual understanding is a feeling of two persons but is not committed to each other. Their thought on “MU” is negative. Very complicated.


On the contrary, I believe that “MU” happens on two persons at the first stage of their relationship being friends. It wouldn’t be complicated if you do what you think is right, if you follow what your heart is saying and if you voice out what you really feels. Actually, mutual understanding helps two persons to develop their feelings for each other. From then, they will be the one who is able to do the rest to build the relationship they want. It depends on them to make this MU climb one step higher or even make it last for ever. Also, there is always a mutual understanding on every relationship. On friendship, boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, etc.





Article 2
Rahameliza dela Pena

M.U: Is it a ‘Mutual Understanding’ or a ‘Misunderstanding’?


M.U (Umasa kasi ako.) -- Inspired by Marcelo Santos III (Please open the link and watch the video :))


How can you actually say that you’re sharing the same special feeling with someone special in your heart?

“M.U is a feeling of being in love without having the label of being official”  This definition was given to me by my friend Hazel when we shared our thoughts about M.U or what the people called as ‘mutual understanding’

We call it mutual because two people feel the same feeling, the feeling of being special, towards their partners or safe to say, their ‘other half’. It means that the feeling is there, but the label of being taken or having an official relationship is missing.

Some are saying that being in an ‘M.U’ stage is just a sign of being afraid. Afraid to take risks. Afraid to take commitments. When I asked another friend for her understanding about M.U, she quoted me this...
 ‘Walang magandang relasyon ang nabubuo kung sasabihin nyong M.U lang kayo’

When she said this, one idea comes in my mind. It’s unfair for each party to just call what they have as ‘M.U’. Because since they don’t have commitments to each others, expectation should not be set. It also means that you can still treat other girl/boy special without having the idea at the back of your mind that you’re already doing the same thing to another girl/boy.

What’s the difference between M.U and ‘special friends’? Actually, there’s none. Because the two ideas were just created by people, maybe in love or afraid to fall in love, to escape on the reality of their true feelings.








Article 3
Mary Jean V. Legaspi

                               
                                  A relationship is like a rose,
                                How long it lasts, no one knows;
                                  Love can erase an awful past,
Love can be yours, you'll see at last;

To feel that love, it makes you sigh,
To have it leave, you'd rather die;
You hope you've found that special rose,
'Cause you love and care for the one you chose.
- Rob Cella
courtesy of google.com
I'm a girl who doesn't know more about love until someone told me "M.U kau!" and that was the time when I started to ask about M.U - Mutual Understanding. Unfortunately, until know I haven't find it's real meaning but majority used to say M.U is "MAGULONG USAPAN".

Wondering WHY "Magulong Usapan"?

Well, let me tackle this you.

According to my research M.U is...
1.   You care a lot for each other more than a friend does
2.   Missing each other even for a while
3.   Texting everyday, asking i'f you've already eaten your breakfast, lunch, dinner as well as if you're taking your sleep very well
4.   and you like to be with each other every seconds, minutes, hours, days, and nights.
But you know what's the real meaning of M.U?

courtesy of google.com
It is acting like Girlfriend and Boyfriend and doing the way they did but NO COMMITMENT, NO EXPECTATIONS, NO RESPONSIBILITIES, and NO EXACT DESTINATION. It is just going with the flow. You'll never know what would you be tomorrow.

However, maybe some people who are involve with this kind of situation have lighten up their minds what exactly is their feeling for each other and sooner or later end up with a formal relationship or even marriage. Well, it is just depend for the both of you.



Article 4 
Geraldine P. Balbada


Being teenager is the most exciting part of our life, as Whiz Khalifa song says we are young, wild and free. Just imagine living and doing things you like without any major complication. You can even go to places you’ve never set foot before and enjoy it without minding a work, a husband or a Son to take care of. You can party hard with the people you just met, or simply occupy yourself with your family and handouts from school.  And as a teenager we often use our hearts instead of brain and fall hard to someone who shows you what you think is… Love (oohh… come on! ADMIT it!).
(courtesy to:Google.com)
Teens usually use the phrase “MU” for “mutual understanding” that sooner or later will lead to another “MU” or “Magulong-Usapan”. Mutual understanding is a stage between friendship and courtship, where usually a Guy/girl shows intense affection to his/her opposite sex and acts as if they are in a BFGF relationship. It’s also an Almost like relationship/Fling where there might be a verbal agreement where the two of you admitted your feelings by saying it or it may be non-verbal where you just let your gestures do the talking.

Being inside the arrangement of MU is pretty hard. Because there are no assurances in here; you just keep on investing your feelings and attaching yourself to that someone and end up hurting yourself for you don’t have the rights to demand, to be jealous and to claim him, since there is NO COMMITMENT. But sometimes it’s a matter of understanding, trust and comfort you found in your friends arm. Even thou you know how these things will end up  You still hope that things between the two of you will be fine but at the same time expecting the consequences that it may end  up in a messy and tearful way.

This kind of situation often happens on students who spend more time outside their home and exposing themselves to the unfamiliar affection of other people asides from their family and close friends. As far as I know there are factors that trigger a person to enter this kind of Situation such as; (1) they are afraid to commit, (2) they are just enjoying your company and want to spend more intimate time with you, (3) maybe both of you want to try this kind of situation and see where it will leads, or (4) because you love him/her but you are committed to someone else.

As a teen, I’ve been through that before and not impossible to be with that kind of situation again. In the circumstances like MU, confusion and pain are packaged and there’s no way to avoid it. You take the risk of being broken to be with that someone and take all the chances to be happy but tried not to think about the future and the truth; the truth that there is no “US” in the picture and there is no real Relationship between you two at all. And there is no one to blame but yourself for you already know how this situation will end before you started it.

Falling in love has its own magic. It conquers everything, including the truth and the reality. Not all the time when you fall there’s always someone that is ready to catch you. Sometimes whether you like it or not, you have to hit the ground first to understand things and wake yourself from always using you heart instead of your brain.
So don’t enter this kind of situation: MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING is COMPLICATED.




Article 5
Chita Nepomuceno




Nowadays getting involve in a relationship is not just a means of confessing feeling to someone you love sometimes it may mean for common understanding that both of you are suit for companionship, that both of you are fun in many different things and both of you would mean the presence of same affection and that without the other one would fail the hearts’ want and this is what we call M.U.(mutual understanding).

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For me as a teenager, the so called mutual understanding may defines for good foundation before getting in a relationship. But on the other hand mutual understanding may lead for unwanted mischiefs of both affected partner just like those of in a relationship, they may also experience heartbreaks and what worst here is that neither of them can’t demand for what they wanted their companion should do because at foremost they do not have this so called bonded relationship or in other words they do not have the label of “officially in a relationship.”

However, just as I said earlier Mutual Understanding may also define for good foundation before getting in a relationship, once both affectionate individuals start of being MU they may have then this so called more understanding of the attitudes of each other and mean for stronger bonds since the common ground for building a good relationship is having the so-called more understanding of partners and knowledge of how to deal with the companion’s wants.

Moreover, the mutual understanding now is then became the most used label by those of affectionate individuals for the reason may be some teens  may want still to keep the traditional standards of placing oneself in a relationship at the right age or right circumstance that they defined.







Article 5
Mary Rose E. Navarro






        It is a trend for teenagers nowadays to have an complicated status of involving themselves in a relationship. “Magulong-Usapan”, defined by them. With those sweet words and a meaningful efforts that can make them feel special, they get easily fell in love.



        You like him, like he used too. You care for him, like he used to do. And you love him, and he feel the same way too. You are like real partners- but not actually.

        These are some factors that maybe considered as in an complicated relationship.

        When teenagers say “M.U”, the first thought that comes into my mind as a teenager is that a relationship which is not official or doesn’t have a label. It is something that both parties appreciate all the efforts being exerted by one another. And at the same time, enjoying each others company.

        It is falling inlove with the person who is then inlove with you but because of certain factors that hinders the confirmation of the relationship, it remains unofficial.

        To name a few reasons, first is that, because maybe one of the person involve in the relationship is confused about the feelings that he or she had. Yes, there is a confusion but she thinks the dominating feelings is that he or she love the let say his unofficial partner. Secondly, maybe one of them had this second thought of “what if i was not love by this person?”. There is a fear on the consequences. And thirdly, because this relationship has no assurance that once it will be confirmed, there is a question will it still be the same like there is nothing change on the relationship that you have before.

        This is “M.U”. No Label. No confirmation. Not official. Untold. And its really COMPLICATED!


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7 komento:

  1. what does MU means to you? How do you define it? have you ever been experienced this? Yes, MU is a Mutual Understanding between a man and a woman that obviously there is something strange between them. why strange? its because they obviously like each other but cant voice it out.. look likes in a relationship but aint true.. for me MU is negative and very complicated because you are falling inlove with no assurance.
    the real meaning of this is... You are just acting as if you are in a relationship with no commitment. no responsibilities. no expectation. so never demand, never assume... never confront, dont have to be jealous... feel sulky because simply you have NO RIGHT! and you have no right to ask an explanation if one day he will leave you with no reason... remember you're just an M.U not a girlfriend... in the first place you have no commitment..he didnt even told you to hope..
    LOVE IS A GAME AND THE FIRST ONE WHO FALLS....... LOSES


    and i am a loser.. :(

    TumugonBurahin
  2. I also been in this relationship rn MU we love each other. But we're not yet ready for commitments. It's hard to get jealous and mad when you don't have the right.

    TumugonBurahin
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  4. Does a relationship wherein the two are not yet official because they are not yet allowed to date as their parents have told them so and are only waiting till the time that they are allowed to date each other comes count as an M.U?

    TumugonBurahin
  5. Still confused. I have a guy that likes me and told me he wants to hold my hand even on public, but I am afraid of judgments. Are we allowed to hold hands and hug each other on public even though we're still M.U?

    TumugonBurahin
  6. This is such a nice article. Here you mentions many useful information which will helpful for a better relationship.

    TumugonBurahin